Trauma & Abuse

Overcoming trauma and abuse;

As a professional hypnotherapist, trauma and abuse is defined as all forms of maltreatment (physical, mental and sexual abuse). These types of abuse leave a person feeling worthless, small, unwanted and like a 'piece of shit'. Sometimes, a person seeking help from a hypnotherapist will be seeking help to resolve abuse experienced in childhood, but others may be seeking resolve from abuse experienced as adults. Either way, Hypnoanalytical therapy is the only therapy in the world that will assist a client to permanently resolve the deep conflicts caused by abuse and enable them to live a normal, happy and balanced life.

As children, we are so incredibly fragile.

In fact, as adults, it's hard to comprehend how fragile and vulnerable each and every one of us was. Most of us as 'adults', take it for granted that we can deal with being in certain abusive scenarios, be it mental, physical or sexual. We have coping mechanisms that have been developed within ourselves to deal with guilt, shame and anger, which aid to lower our anxiety levels. We talk to a friend, we find a shoulder to cry on, we can reason. However this is not to say 'adults' are not vulnerable to long lasting effects of abuse. Many adults, through being abused as children, continue, long into adulthood, attracting abusers and being abused (often without knowing they are experiencing abuse again), and indeed find a variety of ways to abuse themselves as a life of abuse is all that they know. Indeed the effect of abuse can lead to the abused becoming the abuser and I am open to treat both without any judgement whatsoever.

We are all aware of 'adults' who act like children in their ways and emotions and the child who appears a lot older in their emotional level having had to try and deal with mental, physical or sexual abuse. So let's not separate 'adults' and children because there is just too much grey area.. Abuse hurts everybody, causes huge amounts of anxiety and effects us negatively, often for the whole of our lives unless we find resolve.

As children there are certain emotions that we cannot cope and reason with because we're not developed enough. These emotions are those of Shame and Guilt. We cannot identify that being abused isn't 'our' fault and that it's the abuser who is the guilty party, who should feel shame for their actions. If we think about it, how did we react as children when we had a favorite toy taken away.. we were angry, we lashed out, we cried. How did we feel when we were jealous of a brother or sister for instance, we became angry, we screamed, we rolled around on the floor. With all these emotions, we knew how to project them outwards, to 'get them out of our system'.

But what happens when we feel shame and guilt?

The answer is we do nothing except take the incident and emotion inward. If the emotion is strong enough, it will penetrate the subconscious of our minds to be potentially never found again (bottling it up).

The problem with this is it creates extreme amounts of anxiety as the emotion hasn't been resolved and that has to be released in some way, often in later life, by the appearance of any number of problems and symptoms, many of which are described within this website.

There really is no need to live your life any more as an abused person, or to put it another way..as a victim. There is a way out of the torment and suffering. Being abused once or a few times in the past is bad enough, but continually letting others abuse you and finding ways to abuse yourself really takes the biscuit. The past needs to be left in the past. Overcoming trauma and abuse, to a complete resolve, can be achieved with Pure Hypnoanalytical Therapy

It will be quite a journey with its ups and downs, but the end results are so positive and worth it, its hard to describe without going through it yourself. Stop suffering. You may not feel it right now, but you deserve to give yourself a chance.